Issue # 12

Off track is not off course

Hi Reader,

This week's Substack article talks about something almost every woman on this journey runs into: a habit holds for weeks, sometimes months, and then life happens, and the routine falls apart. Not because you decided to stop. Because something got in the way, the way something always eventually does.

Here's the part that actually determines what happens next: the story you tell yourself about the gap matters more than the gap itself. I missed too much. I have to start over. That story does more damage than the missed days ever could.

Getting off track was never the actual problem. Every person who's built a habit that lasted has also gotten off track at some point. The difference isn't staying perfect. It's getting back on quickly.

A Path Forward

Here's something you can build today, before you need it.

Pick one habit that matters to you right now. Then decide, in advance, what your smaller version looks like when the full version isn't possible.

Miss three days of walking? A ten-minute walk tomorrow, no negotiating with yourself about it.

Meal planning falls apart? Protein and water for the next 24 hours, and let everything else wait.

A week goes by without strength training? One short session, even fifteen minutes, rather than waiting until you feel fully ready.

Deciding this now means you're not lying in bed on day five of a bad stretch trying to figure out what to do. You already know. You just do it.

Getting off track is part of the process. Getting back on is the whole skill.

If you're a paid Substack subscriber, I've built this out into a full framework this week, with a template you can fill in for yourself and a version for each of the four adaptation domains. You can also drop your plan in this week's paid chat, I'll be reading through them and responding to as many as I can.

Talk soon,
Dr. Jen Bradley

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