Issue # 11

The Skill That Predicts Whether This Sticks (It's Not Willpower)

Hi Reader,

If you read this week's Substack article, you already know what a punishing loop is, and why a stall in the present can activate the same dread you felt the last time a plateau turned into a slide backward. That's the why behind the fear. This email is about something the article didn't get into: the one thing that actually predicts whether a woman moves through a plateau instead of getting stuck in one.

It isn't certainty. Nobody gets certainty. Not you, not me, not anyone who has ever lost weight and then had to hold onto it. What predicts it is something researchers call adaptive confidence, and it's different from certainty in a way that matters.

Certainty says: I know what's going to happen.

Adaptive confidence says: Whatever happens, I know I can respond to it.

You don't need to know whether this plateau breaks in two weeks or six. You need evidence that you're someone who adapts, because you already are. You've been doing it since the day you started.

A Path Forward

Take five minutes this week and build what I call an adaptive confidence inventory. Not a food log. Not a habit tracker. A short list of the specific things you've already adjusted to on this journey that once felt impossible to imagine handling.

Changes in appetite. A side effect you didn't expect. A social situation around food that used to trip you up and doesn't anymore. A moment you thought would break your routine and didn't. Write down three or four of these, specifically, in your own words.

You're not doing this to feel good about yourself, although you might. You're doing it because the next time the old fear shows up at a plateau, you'll have something concrete to hold against it, real evidence that you are someone who has already solved problems this journey put in front of you, more than once. That's not a guess about the future. That's a fact about you, right now.

Dr. Jen

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