Issue # 10

Hi Reader,

If you caught this week's Substack piece, you already know about appearance adaptation distress: the gap between the body you expected and the one you're actually standing in. Loose skin is the clearest example. It's the number one complaint I hear from women after significant weight loss, the part that never responds to the number on the scale no matter how much progress you've made. If you missed the piece, here's the short version. Reaching a goal weight doesn't automatically change how you see yourself. That's simply how body image works.

What I didn't get into in that piece is why the gap exists. Understanding the mechanism changes what you actually do about it.

Your brain keeps an internal map of your body size, and that map updates slowly, much slower than your actual body changes. It's why you might still reach for a size that no longer fits you, flinch at a photo that doesn't match how you feel in the mirror, or look smaller to everyone else long before you feel smaller to yourself. Psychologists call this a body map lag. It's a documented neurological phenomenon, not a sign that something is wrong with your progress.

This shows up most in Stage 3 of your GLP-1 journey: Maintenance, the stage where the weight loss itself has stopped. Your body may keep changing from here, especially if you're lifting weights or staying active, but that change is coming from you now, not the medication. The point of this piece isn't to track what's still changing. It's to help you accept yourself as a whole person while your internal picture is still catching up to what's already true.

A Path Forward

You can't force your body map to update through willpower. It updates through evidence, specifically repeated proof of what your body can actually do now, and what it feels like to live in it, not the old assumptions you're still carrying.

Here's the practice. Each night this week, write down one factual observation about what your body did that day, or how it felt to be in it. Not a judgment about how it looks. Something it did, or something you felt physically.

I felt strong today when I lifted the groceries.

I crossed my legs without discomfort.

I climbed three flights of stairs without stopping.

This is what I mean when I say trust facts over feelings. The old feeling is the outdated map. The fact, what your body just did or how it felt to move through your day, is what's actually true right now. Facts can start rebuilding the picture today.

With you in this,

Dr. Jen

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